I'd like to believe that my new tendencies when it comes to socialize are getting worse because of my age but I'm afraid the reason is because I was always like that. It is time that has shown me what I am and I've come to terms with it.
Somehow all the those thoughts and the following make sense in in my head. And for some weird reason I see them connected to programming.
Just like mathematics is not about numbers or just numbers. I find myself believing that ended up in coding (I majored in physics) because the act of coding relaxes me. I find peace with the activity.
I know there are so and so things that make great software engineers. And clearly I am not against any of them however the just coding is what I enjoy more and not thinking what design pattern or so is better for this or that.
In the same way, I enjoy meeting with people and listen to them but when the hanging out becomes about baggage or personal issues I just can't find myself happy. It has nothing to do with the person but I am not there to take the heat or tell how things should be.
And just like programming, I think I have come to follow three simple principles:
- Be simple in actions and thoughts.
- Be patience with every single one.
- Be compassionate with myself.
Those, after many years on this planet, have become part of me and they affect all areas of my life including coding.
I dunno what was the reason behind the character Feffer's dad in the movie Along Came Polly but I think is someone I want to become now that I'm getting old.
Just be silence and rarely open your mouth.